He doesnt want you to stay out of his world UNLESS you continue to NOT be friends with him. He is not accusing you of invading his world, or asking questions about him. He is making the point its a bit wierd you two are no longer in contact, but you are in contact with his Mum, which creates an embarressing situation within his family. What he's asking in his email is for you two to be friends and then you can all have a normal, out in the open friendship with him AND his family??
To be honest hun, I think he has a point. It is a little wierd that you keep close contact with his mother and sister but refuse to deal with him (and lets face it, you dont seem to be very friendly about him in your posts). You still hold some anger/resentment about the way things ended hey and thats evident in your posts. So if thats where you are at, I dont blame him for being a little wierded out that that is still your position toward him, but that you maintain contact with his parents.
I guess also, it exacebates his guilt/shame over the way he acted and ended it and makes him look continually bad in front of his own family.. becuase THEY still like you and choose to have you in their lives, whereas he didnt. Figure? Perhaps thats whats really eating him about all of this. He didnt say that though!
Can you move toward being friends with him? His email was quite nice I thought! He expresses he wants to be your friend because
"I wish you thought we could at least be friends, you are a great person and you make me laugh."
Whats that great DB mantra... forgiveness ?? Al xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
