imLin, it sounds like your H needed to change, not you, but oh well. PEI, I feel one should not have to change one's true character. You can be more aware, perhaps, of affects on other people, but if you are a strong personality, then that is who you are. Right? They forget what attracted them to us in the first place (as imLin said), then suddenly it's not what they want. They rewrite the history of our marriages, and we (the strong personalities) are shown up as mean, or b!tches, or whatever. I tried the 180 change ... became more demure, handed everything over to H, and you know what, I am miserable and want to just leave. MLC sucks! And, I agree, that the worse the childhood, the worse the MLC and the longer. I think mine is still in the tunnel ... we just happen to be staying together.
Vent over! Sorry! I am having a bad week, maritally speaking.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
