She said "I knew I couldn't trust you, I knew you would somehow spy on me or try to find things out. I knew I COULD NOT trust you to give me my privacy during our 'in-house separation'"
Is that part of the script?
YES!! They will always blame YOU for your "invading their privacy," rather than take responsibility (or, God forbid, show any remorse) for THEIR irresponsible behavior!
As for what you do next . . . you wait. Let it sit a couple of days, and just GAL. You can then start to get your legal ducks in a row. Have you met with an atty yet? Preferably, a good family law atty who specializes in "men's rights"?
Oh, before I forget, one thing I WOULD recommend you do: firewall your finances. If a wayward spouse is going to deplete family finances, now (right after exposure) is usually the time they will do it.
