Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

[Quicksilver264]

I just confronted, she lied and lied and lied until she finally gave in about the pictures and sex chats. I was VERY subtle, and didn't give away anything but my law enforcement source.

However, she didn't CARE AT ALL ONE BIT. She now wants to move the divorce filing data SOONER, and she said she CAN'T wait to get out of the marriage. She said the marriage has been "over" for so long. that it didn't matter to her while doing it.

So she has had EAs with 2 guys, sex chatted so many times, and all she says is she wants to be single and go have sex with this FB guy.

I am going to message the 2 guys she sexted with, and just let them know what they did was wrong.

Does anyone think I just put the final nail in the marriage coffin?

MWD says not to believe anything you hear and half of what you see? What should I be thinking or believing now?

I am still shaking. That took so much courage I don't know if I can keep this up. Anyone have ANY advice???

[david allen]

I'm not one to be giving advice but I have a similar problem I have been thinking about calling the om and telling him all I know but I believe it would end any chance of reconcile I think what i am going to do is keep trying to distance and work on me. maybe you should consider the same. I feel your pain hang in there

[Quicksilver264]

I just messaged both of them. I read over and over on here and other websites recommended here that it probably is the best course of action.

Expose, expose, expose, right?

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Does anyone think I just put the final nail in the marriage coffin?

Nope -- not at all. Typical caught-cheating "script." In fact, I could have predicted it for you almost word-for-word, ahead of time.

That's not to guarantee that your marriage will survive -- no one can guarantee that. But if it doesn't, it WON'T be because you exposed her cyber-cheating.

Nicely done, btw.

Puppy

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I just messaged both of them. I read over and over on here and other websites recommended here that it probably is the best course of action.

Expose, expose, expose, right?

Sure, why not. Maybe it'll make the slimeballs move on down the roader to a weaker link in their predatory chain, but you're not dealing with honorable people here -- by definition -- so I wouldn't get your hopes up.

Puppy

[Quicksilver264]

He just messaged me back and told me "he wants to discuss in person". Haha.

He is really, really, mad. I mean maaaaad.


Thanks for the pickup Puppy.

I am just afraid now that this guy is ticked it might backfire. Or it may not.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Please be careful. Do NOT go meet him in person, unless maybe it's with your law enforcement buddy.

Puppy

[Quicksilver264]

Oh i won't. Definitely not. He lives fairly far away. But he is visibly mad.

He is going to tell my wife, get her mad, and then they can hate me together. Then they can pair violence with sex, and have more sex chats.

I don't know if I did the right thing. But most of the websites and advice said to CONFRONT the other people.

From most of the websites:

Confronting the Other Person
You are NOT going to want to do this face to face. I do not ever tell anyone to do this face to face. Emotions can really go wild and you will find yourself behaving in ways you wish you never did. It's better to either write a letter or an email. You only want to say this.....You want to cause major conflict in their relationship. You don't want their relationship to be all rosy and wonderful, like they think it is. Remember they are in a fantasy and none of it is real. The sooner your spouse wakes up to this the better. You are hoping that they know spend their time together talking about YOU and how horrible and psycho you are, and this is okay.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Oh i won't. Definitely not. He lives fairly far away. But he is visibly mad.

He is going to tell my wife, get her mad, and then they can hate me together. Then they can pair violence with sex, and have more sex chats.

I don't know if I did the right thing.

Are you KIDDING me? Do you REALLY think they're going to be ANY sort of mutually-satisfying encounter now with each other??? LOL -- infidelitus interruptus, baby!!! NICELY DONE!

Puppy

[Quicksilver264]

Gosh I fell so much better coming from a venerated poster such as you puppy.

One more thing, and I will give myself a gold star. When mentioning the sexting pictures, she said that she wouldn't do that because I could check. (She still doesn't know I have the conversations from last night mentioning Skype).

I said, "But you have a webcam"

She said "I don't even know how to use Skype with a webcam"

I said: "I never said anything about Skype did I? Why would you say Skype when your laptop has an easy integrated wemcam browser"

DEAD TO RIGHTS. That's when she FINALLY admitted she sex chatted last night, the same day I bared my soul to her and she said she'd at least give me a "fair chance".