Not all will agree with this, but I will chime in and say that if you are moving in the direction of an intimate relationship with another person, then you really should put the finishing touches to your marriage first.
Your wife boffing another man does not give you some moral high ground to do the same. You either hold a principle on this matter, or you don't. If extramarital sex is ok with you, then there is no reason to be so hung up about what your wife is doing.
You can't have it both ways.
Personally, a four day visit with a man she met specifically to have a sexual relationship with would be MUCH MORE than enough for me to choose to cut her out of my life.
She could not disrespect you more than by doing what she did.
Again, I'm not saying you cannot date or find yourself a successive string of bed partners if that's how you're constructed inside. But if you're going to go that route, do it because that's who you are. Don't do it because it would "serve her right."
And for pete's sake, give her a divorce first.
At the very least you then get to maintain a shred of personal integrity.
Blessings,
Bill
I don't always agree with Mr.Bill but he hit this one clear out of the park and smashed some guys windshield in the parking lot - this advice is bang on, listen to it, commit it to memory, word for word.
