Something is really bothering me about AC's wife here. Is she really stable? I mean... if she's all full of self woe and mentally a wreck, (and FWIW I'm not entirely sure it's an "act" or that she is meaning to be manipulative)... would a mediator not see that?
I'm not in your country... I'm slightly north... *smile* how does mediation work there? Is it simply hammering out assets etc, or is there any room for going... well ya know folks... you two need help, not a divorce??? Ask your lawyer if you can delay this because of what you think is her mental state/capabilities. It's worth a shot.
As for knowing when... "when you know you'll be ok". Oddly enough, I'd add, that I think it's also when you decide to take control. Control in either deciding to work out a plan and stick to it, regardless if you're successful or not or simply go: Enough.
That control is empowering in so many ways. I still say kick her out,... however it seems weird... some of what she's saying to you just ISN'T making any sense. She does seem LOST... totally wacked in the head. Good news is that at some point she'll get better... bad news is right now... it's not going to happen over night.
Shift your focus away from her, and to your self.
*hugs* Abbey
T:22, M:20 H:55 Me:45 H-OW PA: N/07 OW Jan08 Bomb:Feb/08 S: Apr/08 Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11 Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess. Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.
