The thing that really gets me about the full custody is will this kill any reconciliation attempts.
There is a very fine line you need to walk here. Yes, being aggressive on the legal front will indeed kill any reconciliation attempts. But I'm not advocating that.
You need to adopt a "firm defense" approach. Don't do anything offensive on the legal front. Let her push that forward. But make her push it forward. Don't cooperate. If she serves you papers, then you are legally obligated to respond. When you do, demand full custody. But , at the same time, tell your you don't want to divorce.
If she wants to mediate, basically refuse. Just keep telling her "I want to work on our marriage".
Yes, refusing to move the divorce procces along will frustrate her. But being a nice guy and bringing your marriage to a swift end by a simple mediation won't help you either. Just string the process along... when she forces you to do something legal, preserve your rights to their fullest.
My thread, Carpe Diem #4 Orig Thread: Carpe Diem #1
