I guess I'm just frustrated. I know calling her a coward is pretty harsh. What you said is more accurate... I'm just lashing out. I'm frustrated and in some ways angry, and I miss my wife. I just wish she'd spoken to me when it was a problem. I wish she'd told me it she was upset.
And yeah, all I can do is try and be a friend to her and hope she find the tools to deal with this situation before she does something final like filing.
There are positives there, so I need to acknowledge them and try to use them. I'm sure you agree though, trying to fix things at this kind of a distance can feel pretty hopeless.
Your H and I have something in common. I can be pretty bad with holding a grudge. It's one of the things I'm working on. I've got an appointment with a psychologist on Tuesday, and I am willing to take anything on board to fix this.
I'm sorry that you feel like you're wasting your time with him. I guess you can only divorce bust for so long... and every day you need to make the choice whether to keep trying or not. I'll pray for you to have the strength you need to make the choice that's ultimately right for you.
Me: 29 H: 25 T:7yrs M:5yrs
Bomb: 23/04/10
Had no idea anything was wrong. Cheated so she could end it without talking.