Exposed finally,,limbo land

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OK, I’m thinking there are mistakes being made on my part(obviously), we are waiting until school gets out to separate so we don’t mess the kids up, less than 2 weeks.

I told her,’You need to find someplace to live’
Her,’Why me, it should be you’
Me, ‘I think we need to separate’
Her, ‘I think so too’ {--- I don’t like that, I want her to stop affair, not move out, right?

Even though she said she wasn’t going “to go up there and see him”, she is TM and calling him still constantly.(should I stop the monitoring, cause it really stresses me out sometimes)

She made dinner 2 nights in a row(has never happened in 15 years), like she is buttering me up to ask me to move out instead of her. She told her BF that we were going to wait to tell the girls and do it slowly? So, sounds like she is all ready mentally to move out. Yet, if she moves out, it will be at the end of the month, because I don't know anyplace that starts thier lease in the middle of the month.

I plan on using the phrases in the last couple posts to dissuade her from leaving and stop the affair nearer to the time kids get out of school(should I do it now??), but beyond that, what do I do, just let her move out(without my help of course).

My anxiety is rising again, and need some kinda reassurance, I know you guys can’t really give it to me, but I need something.