And my Transition Object? the other morning he referenced three artists in about half an hour:
Aver, It's great to read this post. Beautiful, really. Does transition object have any brothers living in the midwest??
Here's a bit of info that further confirm our twin-ness - My major in college was: Wait for it, ART HISTORY!
We could chat for hours about Degas, Gaugin, Hopper, Picasso. Name the artist & I could discuss for hours! I'm an art history geek.
Anyhoo, I'm glad you are seeing someone who appreciates your interests & sense of humor.
Your are so smart to understand 1 person cannot meet all your needs, I wonder if I am guilty of that w H. He was a sports buff, I was/am a sports illerate. I grew to love baseball, can (kind of) understand basketball, learned to golf - all when I was w H. But he didn't really share in my love for the arts. Except early on, we'd go to the museum or a play.
Not that 2 people should be doing everything together, all the time. I get that. But for me it turned into, doing nothing together, ever. Well, enough about me!
You are definitely more self aware. I think what you're saying now is better than he dumped me. But I think rather than say X found someone he was happier with, why not say he made other choices in his life? B/c that's what he did.
And he may be happy BUT, Aver, quickly reviewing DB 101: if we are responsible for our own happiness, how can you be totally responsible for his happiness?
Even if you knew (& you couldn't) he was unhappy, & you did all these changes to please him & make him happier...would YOU still be happy? Would he? Maybe. Maybe not!
Am I making any sense here? I hope you understand what I'm saying. I think you are on the right track. I hope my ramblings don't cause more confusion! Just keep remembering to balance it. I get the guilt/regret too. It hurts. But it's not ALL on you. ((((Aver)))) You are doing great.
