Update: I know it can be a whole lot worse but this alone kills me. 10 years of intimacy and now this....
sorry but that just blows my mind every time. ?
Same as we talked about yesterday. She's bitter and she's trying to hurt you. She knows how to push your buttons and what action will produce the greatest amount of damage. Stop reacting to them. If you do they will lose their power and she'll move on.
That could be true or it could have a lot to do with the resentment she has toward me and insecurities as a result of the harsh things I had said to her in the past.
As for last night, after she came back into the room her and I played pictionary for nearly an hour and had as great time. I had not seen my W laugh so hard in a long time. Then we went to bed.
We both woke up early this morning. W before I. We watched a little TV, I got up and headed out the door for a court hearing. Before I left W asked if I was switching medical plans and wanted to know if I was going to add her.
I said to W "Do you want to go on my insurance?" W said "Yes, I want to get work done" referring to her eyes (and other things she mentioned in the past....) I then said "We will have to talk about it then" she said "yeah but you dont have much more time before the cut off date"
I will not add my W to my insurance unless there is a commitment from her to work on our M. I never thought my W to be such a person but I am weary that she would use me for the insurance to get what she wants from it and still leave, I only think this because she is now under the influence of a female co-worker who is married to a co-worker of mine who has the same benefits...
How do I discuss this w/wife and get my point across w/o pursuit ect...
M: 27, W: 25 Together since: 01/31/00 M: 10/4/09 (8 Months) ILBNILWY: 01/24/10 EA confirmed: 02/10/10 (Busted). Road to Reconcile began: 07/10/10 Retrouvaille: 09/10/10
