Yes - I think I need to expose more. Here are more details on the workplace situation:
-OW BF works at this job - I think that their dating may have been kept secret. -OW is my husband's superior (but still low on chain of command) -I know of an incident (via my husband) over a year ago when a partner at his firm conducted himself innapropriately (i.e. blatant and public sexual harrassment of any and all females) on a firm trip to Cabo - he received a light slap on hand. But then again he is bringin in the clients for the firm and my husband is still a grunt.
Help: do I call HR? a partner? what do I say? what if they don't pick up - leave a message? keep trying? How do I make sure I don't come accross as a mentally unstable wife?
What does this do to the dynamic with his family? My own sister (who says leave the guy and would support an egging of his car or similar childish retribution) thinks calling his work is extreme. Won't most people react like "whoa"? Will I burn bridges?
Also, part of me doubts that she is really seeing BF. I have no proof since Novemember - OW BF is higher up than my husband at his job but of course won't appreciate being drug into an HR nightmare to explain his place in all this. Ugh!
