I don't think she is, I don't know that she every will be.
If she is having a EA she never will be. All your changes, while great for you, will be for naught when it comes to saving your marriage.
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I will be able to look in the mirror and say I did all I could to make it work.
Some guys on here say the same thing but can't really follow thru on that. You will have to open your mind, be willing to try uncomfortable things, challenge some dysfunctional beliefs, and not worry what your wife says to you. Let you in on a couple of secrets - her anger is your friend and you want her spewing at you.
DBing when dealing with a EA/PA is different than just dealing with a WAS. All the 180s, GAL, goals, detaching etc are great but not as effective when dealing with a A. You have to gain her respect back first. You do that by standing up for yourself, your family and for her. You have to be ready to handle it and you have to be sure because she will deny it.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
