And here I am .... H's MLC ....

[PEI]

That's why I'm going to try to go at least a bit dim (it will also be a 180 for me to be less available) ... flush him out a bit ... if he's interested, he'll pursue. If not, I won't notice 'cause I'll be too busy GALing

Pei,

Just sort of perusing and this really stood out to me.

Please do not do this as a ploy.

Good point. It does seem like that doesn't it. I think I need to continue 180s and do a better job of GAL. If that means I'm a little less available for real, then so be it. And if H calls and I am available, and I want the time with the family and H, AND I can enjoy it without expectation then so be it!

I understand that you want to know where this is headed, he!! we all would like the answser to that question, but I get the sense that you are still trying to manipulate the situation a bit.

Let this run it's course and do what you feel is best. If you can spend the time together and do it without having expectations, thoughts, about what it means, except hopefully an enjoyable time, do it.

THIS is going to by my focus.

If you can't because you want each indiviual interaction to mean that the M is reconciling, then I would be careful...

When you were dating, did you spend every date and time leading up to the date, wondering if this meant you were gonna get married? Or did you just enjoy the moment?

Good point. Thank you.

PEI