OK...I'll have to be patient and reserved while at home until our next session which is in a few days.
I'm so ready to just pack up, leave, and file for D as that may be the only thing that wakes WW up. WW told me last week that "I don't need a husband but our DD's need a father"
One more thing...she took back my birthday present...REAL MATURE!
M-43 FWW-42 T 20 M 16 DD10 DD8 EA: 1/10 Informal separation: 6/11/2010 Headed for D: 7/6/2010 Piecing? 9/10/10
I know, but you need to be PATIENT. REsponding to such juvenile antics would only get a rise out of you, which is what she WANTS at this point.
Remember, "there is no revenge like a life well-lived."
Puppy
Oh the B-Day present I could give a rats a$$ about...It's the continued contact with OM that is sending me over the edge.
"there is no revenge like a life well-lived."...so true...so true!
I'll just take my anti-anxiety meds and GAL/180 like never before!
Question about 180...do initiate any pleasantries such as hi, how was your day or do I just more or less not concern myself with her? I do have the 180 printout...
M-43 FWW-42 T 20 M 16 DD10 DD8 EA: 1/10 Informal separation: 6/11/2010 Headed for D: 7/6/2010 Piecing? 9/10/10
Yes on the "hi," No on the "how was your day?" If SHE initiates conversation about her day, be the best damned, active-engaged listener you can be, but don't initiate such convos -- they're pursuing.
Yes on the "hi," No on the "how was your day?" If SHE initiates conversation about her day, be the best damned, active-engaged listener you can be, but don't initiate such convos -- they're pursuing.
Puppy
Thanks Puppy...that's what I gathered!
M-43 FWW-42 T 20 M 16 DD10 DD8 EA: 1/10 Informal separation: 6/11/2010 Headed for D: 7/6/2010 Piecing? 9/10/10
180/GAL went fairly well yesterday...I slipped up once or twice
I got home from work and WW is laying on couch reading "The Good Divorce".
M: Hi WW: Hi WW: Can you get our DD's from school M: Can't you WW: I was just asking M: I've been at work all day WW: It's not like I haven't done anything today A few minutes later:
M: I'm doing an activity tomorrow after work WW: OK (In one of those questioning tones along the lines of "you didn't ask my permission first")
Wife and DD's had prior engagement they went to so I GAL'd and went to the bookstore...WW called while I'm at the bookstore:
WW: Are you at home? M: No WW: Where are you? M: Out? WW: Where? M: Out WW: Where? M: I'm at the bookstore what do you need? WW: DD is acting up. M: OK...I'll be home in a little bit.
Went home dealt with DD and helped other DD with homework...sat across from WW at the kitchen table...didn't acknowledge WW when I sat down nor did I attempt to start conversation...just helped DD with homework...WW went upstairs to watch TV...Kissed DD's goodnight and went to bed.
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M-43 FWW-42 T 20 M 16 DD10 DD8 EA: 1/10 Informal separation: 6/11/2010 Headed for D: 7/6/2010 Piecing? 9/10/10
180/GAL went fairly well yesterday...I slipped up once or twice
I got home from work and WW is laying on couch reading "The Good Divorce".
M: Hi WW: Hi WW: Can you get our DD's from school M: Can't you WW: I was just asking M: I've been at work all day WW: It's not like I haven't done anything today
So, DID you (go get DDs from school)?
And in the second instance, how long after her call did you leave the bookstore, and go home and "rescue" her?
51, you're rewarding her crap behavior with this rescuing. It's a form of control she's using. You may want to establish some ground rules for each of you when you have primary responsibility for DDs. If you don't nip this now, she will forever pull you around by the nose, using your daughters as her weapon of choice.
