Need advice for my sitch...

[thelostone]

Her lady coworker friend is the coach, and we both play

[Greek]

Again, if YOU like it, if it's GOOD FOR YOU, then take the field. If not, take up golf.

Greek

[thelostone]

I'm not sure you are seeing my point.
I love to play.

However, her lady friend/coworker is the coach of the team, and my GF is also on the team

[Greek]

No, I see your point. I think you are missing mine. I get that the team represents a connection for you and GF. And I'm saying, since you LOVE to play, stay on the team. That is NOT the same thing as calling/texting/emailing her. Those are all intentional contacts that you go out of your way to make. Being on the team, playing the sport you love, is not an intentional contact b/c you are only there b/c you love the sport - not the GF.

Make sense?
Greek

[thelostone]

Yes I see what you mean.

I will go and if they tell me that they dont want me on the team anymore, then I'll respect that and find another team to play for

[thelostone]

Greek, what did you make of the text this morning?

I tried calling her lastnight, but no answer. I decided to text her this morning. I told her I never wanted her to leave, i was mad when i told her not to bother coming home. The door is open if that is what she wants.

She responded with I'm sorry I made you mad, but im not ready to come back to the arguing.

I followed up with You are right, i dont want that either, but i do want you to come home.

No answer back.

[Greek]

Greek, what did you make of the text this morning?

I tried calling her lastnight, but no answer. I decided to text her this morning. I told her I never wanted her to leave, i was mad when i told her not to bother coming home. The door is open if that is what she wants.

She responded with I'm sorry I made you mad, but im not ready to come back to the arguing.

I followed up with You are right, i dont want that either, but i do want you to come home.

No answer back.

What do I make of it? She doesn't want to talk with you now.
1,000 texts won't change that. So stop. You can't fix this with words. You have to ACT. And that means stop calling, texting, reaching out. GAL. Start moving on. See what happens.

Has it ever crossed your mind that you are NOT married to her? You could....date.

Greek

[MrBond]

Just to clarify ...

When I mentioned about that "It's not up to you whether or not she wishes to come home."

I meant that you can't control how she feels. You can change her perception of you but you can't force her to come home.

[thelostone]

I feel married to her. We've been together 5 years. I would be afraid that dating someone would finalize the deal for her.

[thelostone]

MrBond, yeah, i'm not the greatest with words. People seem to take what i say differently than what I meant