I'm just saying that you're keepin' me real ... and I do appreicate it.
I often ask myself, am I full of faith or delusion? Hope or fear? For as long as I come from a place of strength and compassion - both for myself and for H - and as long as I am here based on faith and hope, I will continue to stand.
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
PEI want to know the difference between hope and false hope?
Nothing except the outcome.
Hope 'becomes' or is seen in retrospect as false hope if you didn't get the outcome you wanted AND it is only classified as false hope by a bitter person who did nothing except hope.
Hope is nothing more that yearning or want for a desired result.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
PEI want to know the difference between hope and false hope?
Nothing except the outcome.
Hope 'becomes' or is seen in retrospect as false hope if you didn't get the outcome you wanted AND it is only classified as false hope by a bitter person who did nothing except hope.
Hope is nothing more that yearning or want for a desired result.
J3B: LOVE this! So eloquently said!
How about hope vs denial? The same as above?
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
Jack is right. You have to do what is right for you at this time.
What posters try to do is let us down lightly by opening the door to a possible PA. Most MLCers do some don't so it isn't a certainty just a possibility and we all know our WAW best.
Unfortunately the fog can obscure everything and anything at times.
PEI want to know the difference between hope and false hope?
Nothing except the outcome.
Hope 'becomes' or is seen in retrospect as false hope if you didn't get the outcome you wanted AND it is only classified as false hope by a bitter person who did nothing except hope.
Hope is nothing more that yearning or want for a desired result.
J3B: LOVE this! So eloquently said!
How about hope vs denial? The same as above?
I would have to say not! You can hope AND face the current realities of your sitch ... denial is just that, denial about where you are, the journey you're on, the sitch you're in, the stuff going on around you, etc...
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
That's why I'm going to try to go at least a bit dim (it will also be a 180 for me to be less available) ... flush him out a bit ... if he's interested, he'll pursue. If not, I won't notice 'cause I'll be too busy GALing
Pei,
Just sort of perusing and this really stood out to me.
Please do not do this as a ploy.
I understand that you want to know where this is headed, he!! we all would like the answser to that question, but I get the sense that you are still trying to manipulate the situation a bit.
Let this run it's course and do what you feel is best. If you can spend the time together and do it without having expectations, thoughts, about what it means, except hopefully an enjoyable time, do it.
If you can't because you want each indiviual interaction to mean that the M is reconciling, then I would be careful...
When you were dating, did you spend every date and time leading up to the date, wondering if this meant you were gonna get married? Or did you just enjoy the moment?
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
Denial is living as if some truth was not true. And...really it does have it own power.
In MLC we DENY that what the MLC currently sees, says, or believes is the ULTIMATE truth. Oh in many cases it IS the truth right now...but we deny that this is what the truth will always look like.
We HOPE that the MLC will resolve their issues and that we the LBSer will have the patience to outlast the ammount of time it takes for the MLCer to realize it.
In the meantime, the LBSer works on themeselves. Or they should.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
