You have a choice to rebuild a marriage here or to tear a home, a marriage, and a family into pieces that you have to live with for the rest of your life. I have made lots of mistakes and so have you, I am NOT going to ruin children over that... ARE YOU?(hard to answer yes here, right?)
I agree that OM is not the complete problem with the dysfunction in our marriage. He is, however, the most immediate OBSTACLE, and that is by your daily CHOICE. End your affair, and let us both start to get back to meeting each other's emotional needs, and re-discovering what it was that made us fall in love with each other to begin with and we can work on re-building our marriage much better than it was before.
from my fortune cookie,,,,,,"Adversity is the test for strong men" Me -44 WAW - 43 D14 D8 EA/PA mid May,2010 WAW moved out- 07/01/10 WAW filed 07/01/10