My H only had a friendship with OW as well. Now they live together. They were more than friends all the time.........I'm not saying it is a PA but it is probably an EA. Sorry.
I also wanted to believe my H was different and told the truth and would never cheat on me. Got a bit suspicious when I asked H whether he had kissed her and he said yes. Couldn't get my head around how many of my friends I had kissed on the lips!
Many MLCers have affairs as part of the course. She is just a symptom no more and no less.
Hey libby ... yeah, they WERE an EA ... it's a long story - but he says they are just friends now ... blah, blah, blah, I know how it sounds but I've explained it a couple of times. Long story short ... I trust his INTENTIONS (and I have my reasons) but I don't necessarily believe he's being honest with himself about his reasons for, or ability to be, 'just friends' (even if he chooses to not act on any of it, it's still an EA if it's going on in his head and distracting from everything else). We, OW and I, have a few mutual friends, and were actually just becoming friendly before this sh!t hit the proverbial fan. The EA was 'busted' early, I believe before it became a PA (I know, I know, Jack) and by all accounts they are just friends. Mutual friend B suggests that since 'nothing happened' that OW and I should talk to 'clear the air' ...
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
