I initially balked at the price tag, too, and hemmed and hawed for three months before discovering the 4-month payment plan a few weeks ago.
Three weeks into it, I think it's worth 10x the price.
I have learned SO much about WH, me, and the whole situation that I can now look at this from a logical rather than emotional viewpoint. It REALLY helps having a man's view of what WH is thinking, because Lord knows I would never have figured it out for myself!
I did have one session with a DB coach, and she did tell me two things that helped:
1. OW has no respect for marital boundaries, doesn't give a damn about me or my kids, and has made it very, VERY easy for WH to justify his bad behavior. Unfortunately, he's spent more time with her the last 3 years than he has me, and she's inflicted a lot of damage. It will take time to undo.
2. WS's often play the "two steps forward, three steps back" game (two good things followed by three bad things) to keep their BS's at a distance and the relationship in turmoil. I have found this to be true.
Fortunately, Larry has taught me a way to deal with the nastiness, and it's been a godsend. He also warned me that it will get worse before it gets better as WH grapples with his confusion/emotions and makes one last attempt to run me off and make me the bad guy for leaving the marriage. I'm bracing myself, but I'm already seeing the signs.
Dashing Dr. Jekyll spent a lovely weekend with us and left for work yesterday morning...and nasty Mr. Hyde returned late last night, two hours late, no phone call, spewing venom.
<Sigh>
I used to think WH and I were SO unique. We aren't. In fact, it's almost ridiculous to see how predictable our behaviors are!
That being said, there's a VERY high probability (88%) that this will end as follows: I will continue Larry's version of DBing, WH will start spewing to OW, she'll get ticked and tell him where to shove it, their relationship will end, and he'll be back and ready for a fresh start.
It looks good on paper, but we all know it doesn't always go so smoothly in real life...
