Lol - hope you didn't try to wade through 7 years and 9,000 posts!!!!
My story in a nutshell - H had a brief affair, through DBing we had a great reconciliation, several more good years, but H really hadn't fixed his underlying depression issues. A few concussions later, and with his 50th birthday approaching, the midlife crisis train carried him off. I was devastated for about 2 months, until I realized how nice it was not walking on eggshells around a chronically irritable guy anymore!
Bought a drum set, learned to play drums in a rock band, got a new boyfriend who was even sexier than the ex and who shared my sense of humor (ever seen The Mighty Boosh? You would love it).
Right now, almost done with divorce paperwork. New boyfriend has issues and unfortunately doesn't want to be a long-term thing, but I sure appreciate having had him in my life this past year. Despite being 54, I don't have any worries about finding new beaus - men other than my ex-husband seem to find me sexy and interesting. But I'm gonna take a little breather for myself, and try to choose really carefully next time.
I come back and read from time to time, to see a few old friends and to be reminded of basic principles. This DB journey is truly a path to enlightenment.
