That is kind of like the person who says, I don't want to fight with you but then proceeds to fight. I think if they are good with being friends with you and vice versa...why not?

I did try to be friends with my FMIL but got too bad when she wouldn't tell her son how angry she was at him and took it out on me instead. Better off without that drama. Spoke to her for the first time in 2 years at D11's graduation.

Maybe he thinks this will force you into being friends since you care for his family so much. Just a guess.

kat

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