WAH and LBW separated and dark

[Forrest Gump]

"i'll try but it's a bit more difficult to because i'm in a new office now and it's not as convenient as before."

By saying I want you to be more active.. does not mean I want you to post more.

We have talked about everything that can or could go wrong in your stitch.

With no forward movement at all. I want you to take an active role in your life. Maybe not posting here as much will be a good thing for you.

I am a firm believer in that DB.com very closely resembles Real Life. As people post and talk you get a reasonable idea of what they are like and how they react. This happens because people usually have a lot of "Emotion" about their situation and are fairly giving with what they will tell you here. So.. I say all that because Coach, Laura, and I.. have a pretty good idea of who you are and what you are capable of. I know that Coach and I have been where you are.. I suspect that Laura has too.(I have not read her story that I can recall) The 3 of us know exactly what you are feeling.. and most likely exactly how you are reacting. Just from experience. We don't need to know the "entire" story. The core values of DB are just that.. They don't change.. they are written in "stone". We have used these values and applied them to our "stitches" with subtle differences. All I ask is that you listen and apply the thoughts to your stitch.

You don't need to understand everything either. If you put half as much energy into doing the things we suggest.. as you put into your post's back to us.. something will change. At the very least what you are doing now.. is doing nothing for you or your marriage. So.. DB tells us to stop doing what does not work.

Lets get you settled and prepared.

So.. Priority #1

GAL.

Change your daily habits. Wake up with a purpose. Do 1 thing every day for a week you have never done before. Go to a different grocery store.. walk in the park.. ride a bike.. roll down a grassy knoll. Simple ideas.. they don't have to be crazy or elaborate. If you can't sleep.. go see the doc. Sleeping.. eating.. showering.. are important.

#2.. Step back from your friends some. Or go with them but do not talk about this stuff. You can come here and vent.. we have no "emotional" tie to you.. so you will likely find solid advice.

#3.. I still want you thinking about a statement. While you are getting your head straight you have some time to work on this.

#4.. For the next 2 weeks.. avoid your H. If you go somewhere and he is there leave. If you think he will be somewhere don't go. If you get caught where you run into him and can't get away. Stand up straight and smile. You don't have to say anything.

Last but not least.. from here on out.. you post about you.. and what is going on in your life. We are not talking about you H.. or what his issues are. We are not talking about the MIL.. FIL..

Nothing but you.

Give this 30 days.. if it is doing nothing for you.. we can go back to doing what we have been doing.

Fair enough?

Now..