And here I am .... H's MLC ....

[PEI]

Good question. I hate that she left him a happy b'day message on facebook ... and then Sunday night he was at An & D's for a BBQ and he told me she was there for a short while ...

Honestly, I feel like there are little reminders which make it hard to put her out of my mind ... but I'm starting to wrap my head around the idea that IF he's being honest, and they are 'just friends' then my obsessing about her, and making little comments every once in a while, is certainly not going to help! (ie. well if you think I'm doing it, I might as well do it!) I need to let it go. I'm just not sure how.

Have any of you talked to the OP with anything less than negative backlash? Would it ever help to 'clear the air' or is it just the control freak in me rearing her ugly head?

Bleh.

OK ... deep breath ...

New topic ... availablility. H commented this morning that since we are going to S5's kindergarten orientation together that I might as well come for supper tonight and travel together. I said sure, makes sense. Now I realize that I've made myself very available on both of his nights at home with the kids. Can't mind-read, and he's a very capable daddy, so I don't know if this conscious cake-eating or just him reaching out in some way. Whatever it is, he's not going to miss me if I'm there all the time now is he? And this Thursday is grocery night and last week he proposed that since getting the groceries and cutting grass were the tasks we took on, maybe we could take the kids to supper together, get groceries together and then he'd cut the grass while I put the groceries away. So that's 2 days from now which will mean, if he follows through, 3 evenings spent doing things and having meals together ... wait a minute ... that's a FAMILY!

So, either he's cake-eating or he's reaching out for the familiar in some way .... either way I think I need to back off ... if he's cake-eating, well, I'll soon see it. If he's reaching out that should become obvious too. I don't think I should NEVER be available, but ALWAYS isn't a good idea either.

PEI