WAW and me in 11th hour!!!!

[Ken62]

Well, this past weekend was "abandonment" weekend. Friday W, MIL, SIL and niece came over to the house to get her things that she wanted. D19 and D20 were home during all of this with D20 making sure my W only took what she was supposed to. W spent most of the time crying and trying to suck D19 and D20 into her drama but they would have no part of it. I was very proud of them.

MIL told two stories from the past to paint me in a negative light to D19. Not sure why she did this (justification I assume on what a bad guy I was) but it just reminded me how W and MIL can remember the negative stuff with such detail and the positive stuff not so well. What is up with that?

I guess OM stayed out in the truck the whole time. W asked D19 why she didn't want to meet OM. D20 had gone out the night before and finally met OM. D20 describes herself as indifferent to what is going on. Her parents are not getting D, two of her friends are getting D. She changed her phone from saying Mommy to W maiden name when she calls.

When I got home everyone was gone and it was sad and surreal to see the things that she took gone. Talked to the girls later that night and W even came back and met the girls outside to give them cards and gifts before they headed out to Orlando the next day. Both girls are very angry with her and feel abandoned by her but also know that talking to her about it wont do any good so they don't say anything to her about how they feel. I really wish that they would try to tell W how they feel.

W had asked D20 when she could come back the next day and D20 told her that it was in the e-mail I sent her. Later that night W asked D20 again when she could come back the next day. D20 called me to ask and I told her and she let W know. What was that all about? Why couldn't W just go to e-mail to find answer? What kind of game was she playing?

Saturday D19 and S20 left at 6:20 a.m. to drive to Orlando (1800 miles) in two days. I had IC appointment in the morning and rehearsal that afternoon so I was able to stay away from the house when W came back. D19 and D20 were worried that W would try to take more things that they stopped her from doing the day before but I didn't think so. Don't know if OM came with her to the house but I don't care.

IC went really well and C said that I am still doing things right and was very pleased with how I handled the furniture issue. She said that I had been showing loving detachment even if W doesn't see it that way right now. Said that I have done nothing out of spite or bitterness and that I had been very loving in how I was handling things. That made me feel good.

Got text updates from D19 and D20 all day Saturday and Sunday on their progress and they got to S24 by 9:00 p.m. Sunday night. D20 was flying home the next day and said that she had a ride home from the airport. I asked her who and she responded with W first name. I asked if she meant her Mom and she said "yes and no". So sad!

I thought W was leaving town on Sunday but evidently not. On Monday got an e-mail from W saying that she had taken all the photo albums but had forgotten to take all the home movies/video tapes. I told her to take what she needed and to have a safe trip and best of luck and she replied back and thanked me and wished me a good summer.

So I thnk that W is actually leaving town today. This happens to be the first anniversary of my heart changing for the better after I found out she was dating first EA last year. Of course it is bitter sweet that it is on the day that W is moving 1000 miles away for at least the summer. The kids and I all think that it will be longer and W is one of the few who think it will only be for the summer but she is in denial.

Not sure what will happen going forward but I will be fine and hopefully thrive in my new life and be the best Dad I can be to my kids. That was something else my C said. The kids may not have a Mom right now but they have a Dad that they have never had before and that is a wonderful thing!