Start of the end..

[iwantittowork]

Thanks for checking in G-man, hope all is well with you!

Pressuring yourself to find another woman - before your D's even final - smacks of neediness. They don't say "be careful you don't rebound," for nothing.

True words, and when I really sat and analyzed what I was thinking, It was also tied to the fact my Ex has a new guy, and is incorporating him into her (And by extension d9's) life, and I was somehow tying that to my self worth. Feeling like she has moved on, and I can't, or what is wrong with me that she is already in new R, and I am not, etc, etc. Totally self defeating, and that was the pressure I was speaking about. Nice to take that off your shoulders when you identify it..

Live your life and see who shows up.
Lo and behold, you took some down time, for your life and someone showed up.
Enjoy, but tread carefully.
Overall, like many of us, you sound like you are far from healed.

Yes, and all tied up together. And I still have no expectations of this new found interest, we have barely even gone out, but I am looking at how I used to be, when it comes to women in general, fearful, afraid to put myself out there for fear of rejection, etc, and THAT is part of my growth.

As well as being honest with myself and anyone that comes into my life from the get go from now on, if they don't like something about me that is there choice, and not a reflection of me or who I am.

I have a long ways to go, I feel, but I am starting in the right direction, I believe.