Hello everyone, I'm new here and have posted in the newcomer's section just haven't gotten any responses yet! I'm just not sure what to do now; my (W) and I have been separated for about a month it just sucks. I'm not sure if I have to post here my situation here too, but I have been trying to be positive with hopes that it would rub off on my (W) not sure it's working. I have also been working on a 180, and trying to do the things for myself I haven't done in a long time. I joined a gym, going out with some friends, spending time with my (S) anything to keep busy!! My (W) is having a hard time too I think she is more depressed than me, however this was her choice!! She tells me she is not the person she thought she was and she needs to be more consistent in what she is doing to live her life. I told her I always wanted nothing but the best for her and she is a wonderful person, and that I’m doing things I haven’t done in yrs. Anyway we have a wonderful therapist even our (S) goes to see her. We have another couple’s secession at the end of this month are last 2 were very emotional. (W) doesn’t think it was very helpful, or understand the point of them, but in reality they were in helping us move forward to save our marriage!! (W) says she doesn't want to give me or our (S) any false hope (I don't know if she is going for me to make this process easier),or every time our son goes at the end of each session he wants us to work it out too which bothers her. We both are doing our best for (S) to make him as comfortable as we can. I just don't want (W) to be stubborn and not give us a chance. She told me if she has a 2nd thought she would tell me, but I don’t no she usually follows through on everything. The other day it was my B-day all she said to me was Happy B-day, no card except from my son, and a cake they got. (W) didn’t even have cake with us, as she didn't know how she felt about it. (W) tells me she hasn't been in this situation before, and wishes there was a book. I wanted to tell her to read DB&DR instead I told her neither have I and tried to be positive. I didn’t expect anything from her, but a card would have been nice. She told me she was sorry for crapping on my B-day oh well I made the best of it with my son and then went to class. Even my In-Laws whished a Happy B-day It’s not like are families are close by we are still a family. I’m just lost, hurt, scared don’t know what to do next any help would be appreciated. Thanks
