At times it seems like I've let go better than him. I'm calmer in any dealings that I have with him. There still seems to be a bitterness about him, I doubt if he's acknowledged his part in the breakdown, he told me that it was mainly my fault.
Good morning smileuk, my sitch is a little different than most here, but when I saw this I couldn't help but to comment. I hope I've read through the rest of your posts carefully enough - if you've already expanded on this and I've missed it, my apologies. To me, the fact that he's telling you the breakdown was mainly your fault is a huge red flag. No breakdown is ever 'mainly' one or the other partner's fault. Ever. If you attempt to back together with him, while he's still holding this opinion, how can you ever work together, as equal partners, to resolve both of your core issues behind the breakdown?
How do you feel about your role in the breakdown? Hopefully you don't accept the damaging weight of this accusation?
I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
