Are you saying many women know they want to cuckhold a stable and secure male so they can go do what they want?
In a word: yes.
At the moment it certainly seems so not only at a personal level and through my own experience(s), but also seems reinforced by surveys as referenced above.
To some extent we are all trained to think this way: 'if only I find the "right person," I'll get what I want and/or need.'
My own experience with my first wife was that once she had me married to her, bought the house to fulfill the trappings of the steps that married people take towrds starting a family, and then once she had our son (in wedlock with my surname) she was done with me.
She no longer needed and wanted me and sought to discard me. I was reminded of that this past weekend when I was at the beach where I realized that my sexlife with her was taking a rather bizarre turn.
How where you reminded that your sexlife took a bizarre turn? One of my co-workers jokes "You didn't lose your wife, you just lost your turn...". Its sad to realize this may be true.
Originally Posted By: TeaEarlGrayHot
My current wife, as I've outlined before, got nailed by a coworker that she was criticizing when her coworker pointed out the obvious...that my wife used sex "to get a husband." Unless my wife has shared our sexual situation with this woman coworker(and I certainly have not) then the observation from outside is just that simple.
So your wife was banged by a male co-worker and the female co-worker was also aware of it? Its funny to think about when the general populous thinks that when a husband is being cheated on that maybe he isn't hitting it right...
Originally Posted By: TeaEarlGreyHot
My wife gets what she wants. A chauffeur, a helper/gofer, and someone who tolerates her QVC/HSN shopping affliction (it is her money), and a reasonably good handyman that can decorate the house the way she wants it. She has recently gotten concerned by my overt and explicit unwillingness to voice any opinion on anything (why would anything I think or want matter?) But it has not changed her basic operation.
I guess if we have an opinion they can divorce us. So we should go into marriage knowing we are a "prop" in their life, and if we feel that our "payment" is too low in affection, loving or whatever it may be we should bail? I'm getting really confused on how to look at marriage now. I thought it was "ours", but I understand where you are coming from.
Originally Posted By: TeaEarlGreyHot
But she is not alone...when nearly 2/3rds of the married women would rather do anything except by sexual with their husbands we, as a whole are either much lousier lovers than we collectively think we are, or these married women have what they want and sex is used to keep it from all flying apart.
Maybe we are lousier lovers than we imagined... I'm not so sure about this. I can tell you one thing though, the married male is not going to have a better phisod for single life than the single male. So the single male will be able to have more of that "all that glitters is not gold" appeal, because thats what his livelihood depends upon.
Its really blowing my mind now to imagine how much our wives elevate these single males outside the relationship, whose sole purpose was to get laid. Many of them are thinking married wives are easier lays these days, as in the biggest sluts. How do we counter this?
How depressing to think of it this way. The marriage belongs to the wife and a husband is simply a prop in the situation. Are we supposed to look at it as a job?
