Thanks to you all! I think not giving a damn gives you more power - at least, I believe that's what's happened these past few days.
+ Singles mother benefits is the money you get from the govt for being a single mum. It's quite a bit of money, yes.
+I am still thinking about the names. Getting more emails from WH about the surname thing. Says it's for her, not him. (G, I really like your naming rationale. If it fits, go with it).
+ Get a call from MIL about the surname thing, saying she loves me and supports me and hates what her son is doing but hopes i wont be vindictive over names and that the baby should also carry his surname. I ask her to butt out.
+ Other things happen: I ask BIL (who has a just found a great job and will stay at least 6months or a year) if they want to live with me & share costs in the long term. He's not sure. Then he says what does WH want to do with the apartment. Looks a bit upset when I say I don't really give a damn and he wont be a 50-50 owner as part of any divorce.
+ WH sms's at 6pm saying he is coming at 10 in the morning to collect his stuff. I tell him that is not a decent amount of warning, but am letting him come anyway to get half his stuff.
+ He will collect his skis and I just know that Mr Poor Man will find the money somewhere to hit the slopes. Darn it.
+ I have started sending WH lots of emails asking for explanations for all kinds of things, including when is he going to announce to everyone that he and OW are official and will he be living with her when he returns to Europe.
I am so over him gals, and not wanting to be with someone who doesn't value me (even if he was the love of my life), feels so much better than Po Beeping it.
Not sure counseling would solve anything.. but perhaps mediation to help seperate assets...
