The first thing you should do is shut down internet sevice to your home and her cellphone (if you pay those bills). I'll let the others help you elsewhere.

I am sorry and take care of yourself.

M:47
M:18
D16, S19
1st S 1/08-5/08
Reconciled/May 7, 2008
Left again Nov 9, 2009
I Filed: Nov 17, 2009
Final: April 14, 2010
EX walked away from kids too