g450, the other thing to remember, if I read this right,is that your separation has not been that long. We often expect that we will just rise up and overcome and skip over the greif and hurt. We guys look for other women who will validate us as men because we feel like we've been immasculated. We fear deep feelings, we're used to being caretakers/fixers not beat up balls of emotion. It takes time to work this all through, take the time and don't freak when you hit a bump in the road. The road will always take you eventually somewhere you want to go if you just follow it.
