Sorry Mr. Cool, I see now how my quoting you could be seen as taking things out of context.
My whole point was that men are not as 'picky' about anniversaries and we girls are, and tend to remember only the major ones. Since Karen was all worried about the anniversary of their first date, I thought it likely to be something her H would not consider extremely important... Wedding anniversaries tend to superseed those... The ghost I aluded to was worrying about that particular anniversary each year and making it into a contention issue... for a week before the actual date. I used to do that in the early years of my M (and look where this and other similar behaviors got me )...
And Karen herself confirmed my hunch in her post...
Again, I apologize for the confusion. I need to proof read my posts before I hit that button...
To you Karen, I just want to say that you have been smart enough to recognize the danger in your M and your communication patterns in time to avoid the kind of severe pain and damage that we see so often in the BB. And you have set out to fix it. You have done a great job in this little time: you have every right to be very proud of yourself.
Just keep doing a great job and be patient... everything will come at its proper time. You are having a bit of a down, but tomorrow will be a better day!
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
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