still separated, headed for D?

[newmama]

gotta go to bed but just wanted to say that I think I am on to something. I think that by being too distant, I didn't get a chance to share what fun and interesting things I was doing, so how could WH get a chance to shake his perception of me? I was mom-nice woman around the house, then I was gone and doing something and never spoke of it.

So how could he know that I was more than mom-nice woman? You see, there are disadvantages to being mysterious, distant, and having no contact. I should have scheduled a few more sessions with the DB coach I guess. It is good to act mysterious and distant for awhile, but then you need to let them see what you are doing at some point! (unless your goal is ONLY to detach- then screw what they think, lol!) I mean if you are trying to use your actions to show them you have improved (which of course you are doing for you in case they don't come back), then they need to be able to see and know about your actions!


(Citygirl- thank you!your harsh truth about him seeing me only as a mom helped to inspire this aha-but I am still going to bring up D in 4 weeks.)