that was after she lied to me and went out the night before and was hanging out with her lady coworker the next day. "This all after i told her that I love her, want to marry her, and am willing to do everything necessary to make that a reality and ask her if she was."
THIS is pursuit. I didn't say to promise her the world. I said to tell her that she was welcome home. How old are you again? I think you need to stick your vitals in your sig. line.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
I was conflicted on how to go about it. i see posts telling people not to pursue or talk about the R, and i've been given advice to talk with her on two occasions.
AGAIN. I'm not saying to talk about the R. You just need to tell her and show her that the door home is still open to her. Don't go into a heavy talk or profess your undying love for her. Just apologize for the things you had done wrong (and if you felt you were wrong to kick her out, mention that too) and say that the door is open for her to come home if she wants it.
And that's it.
Look you say you haven't done that, so give it a shot. She's gone already so what have you got to lose?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
I'm already in the danger zone, I'm just trying to get advice on how to best deal with my sitch so that I dont blow what little chance i may or may not have with her.
We all are. You have to get out of the paralysis that you find yourself in and do something.
Did you read DR? Learn from that about how to do something and seeing and monitoring results.
You came here looking for help. You wondered why no one responded to you and when I did, you don't want to listen to advice or refer back to things that people already suggested to you.
So what do you want? Are you going to wait until you get advice that backs you up as to what you want to do anyway? If so, then do what you want to do.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
It will probably just push her away more. I dont think she wants to come home. she said she pretty much made up her mind before i told her not to bother coming home
Originally Posted By: thelostone
that was after she lied to me and went out the night before and was hanging out with her lady coworker the next day. This all after i told her that I love her, want to marry her, and am willing to do everything necessary to make that a reality and ask her if she was. She couldnt give me an answer and said she needed to go to the grandma's house for the weekend to sort it out.
She went alright, for 2 hours and then left the kids there.
Sometimes reading what yourself just wrote doesnt make as much sense as when someone reads it for you.
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i told her that I love her, want to marry her, and am willing to do everything necessary to make that a reality and ask her if she was.
She couldnt give me an answer and said she needed to go to the grandma's house for the weekend to sort it out.
she lied to me and went out
she said she pretty much made up her mind before i told her not to bother coming home
I dont think she wants to come home
You are more in control of this situation then you lead yourself to believe
I tried calling her lastnight, but no answer. I decided to text her this morning. I told her I never wanted her to leave, i was mad when i told her not to bother coming home. The door is open if that is what she wants.
She responded with I'm sorry I made you mad, but im not ready to come back to the arguing.
I followed up with You are right, i dont want that either, but i do want you to come home.
No answer back.
We probably have different ideas of what arguing is because i dont recall us hardly ever arguing. I do know i've done the talk about our R alot though.
