I am online a lot at night and think it would be good for you to chat with some fellow DB'ers.
You aren't all alone. Most all of us have been where you are and the holidays I think make it worse. Drives home that our relationships aren't where we want them to be right now.
Yeah, it sucks. But life isn't fair and you have made gigantic improvements.
I would suggest stop asking him and start just doing things on your own. He will eventually want to join you some I think. But definitely get a second opinion on this one!!
But you can't push his side of the R. You can do what you feel like doing and eventually since he is still there he will jump back in. But you need to start living for and taking care of Karen. I don't mean be rude. Just lovingly detach. If Karen would rather go out in the evenings, take Karen out with some friends or to do something interesting!
That way you both are happy. He gets to veg and you get to go out. I think eventually that will even out a bit. But for now I think you are going to have to take the initiative and take Karen out and not have expectations that H is going to want to go out right now.
Give him some space, let him miss you, that vibrant, active, sexy wife he is married too and still living with and making love too!
Pam
"We must be willing to let go of the life we had planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us"
