The question is, 'How to fix ten years of lyin' and cheatin' on your wife in a couple months?'
I will help you the best I can.
There are others on this site that would be willing to take their spouses back after such that you did, maybe they would help you to understand what some people are willing to accept for their forgiveness. There are others that are curious what goes through a man's mind or penis when they are willing to forsake their wives.
I see the following questions needed to be answered for yourself:
What is love? think about it.
Why do you really love your wife?
How could you tell another woman you love her when you love your wife? please do not use out of fear, or I was weak, Or I was not thinking.
If you have to answer with out of fear, or I was weak, Or I was not thinking, why would your wife want to be married to a weak man who does not think about his wife and lets another woman control his life?
Were you really in love with her?
You promised you would stop talking to her when your son was born, you kept doing it. you kept sneaking away from the family to talk with her and meet her on back roads and have sex with her. How could you do that to your son that was a baby and deserved a loving family and married parents and a future with the both of you. Crying is not an acceptable answer.
She has had other affairs on her husband, why would you be telling a slut you love her, be sexual with her and spending time with her instead of your wife who loved you, was making another child with you and planning her future around that, if you didn't love her?
Was the fact she was going to kill herself more important than your family and if it was not why didn't you tell your wife immediately what was going on so the both of you could tell her husband she needed help?
Tell me about every time you met her again.
Why did you tell this woman you would leave your wife? Is it because of her that you lied to your wife and treated her the way that you did for that many years to spend time with this other woman instead of her?
The other woman is saying she had oral sex with you, why would she lie about that happening knowing that her already cheated on husband will find out if it really didn't?
If your wife was to stay married to you but never ever sleep in the same bed as you and never ever have sex with you again. That means she would never initiate and would recoil from your touch. How could you be trusted to never do this again with this woman, who obviously is in love with you, or with another lonely woman that finds you attractive?
Eye color, blood type and foot shape are inadequate indicators of paternity. Would you be willing to take a DNA paternity test to verify if you were related to this child if requested?
I could go on but this is probably enough to mentally exhaust you even without a crying hysterical woman who just had her heart cut out with a chain saw and entire plans for the future and her children ripped out from under her by a tramp you knew from high school. I would expect you to have to answer some form of these questions. The suicide card, I did it out of fear, She is fabricating a story about what happened, and I am sorry, would be poor answers to me, I wouldn't accept them or you back if that is all you had to give me.
