Quote: I'm having a hard time backing off and detaching b/c I feel like I NEED to hear these things from him. I NEED for him to put some effort into our r. I NEED to know that he is committed, etc. Maybe if i re-read DB, or Getting Through, i would be inspired to back off again.
I just don't believe that I CAN do this right now. I don't know. I feel like I have a decision to make of whether or not I am really going to do this and do what it takes to make it work...
I can relate to the tiredness of all you are doing....can you take a break from trying so hard? Cut yourself some slack? Take the focus off of what you think you need from h and figure out a way to give yourself something?
I've been mired in feeling overwhelmed with setting goals lately...I realized that it's because I've been trying to set GIANT ones -- like "what I will do to make this m last forever and be perfect" -- kind of a big chunk to bite off, no?
So...like the golfer in DB (I think that's where I read it!) -- instead of focusing on the hole...I'm gonna focus on a spot MUCH closer to me that's in line with the hole...
Know what I mean?
What can you do today for YOU that makes YOU feel loved, supported, not alone, etc????? Not FOREVER but for TODAY?
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
