Need advice for my sitch...

[MrBond]

Have you invited her back home? When you kicked her out, that was probably a pretty heavy blow to her pride. Especially since you were the one who was checked out from the game playing. You didn't pay attention to her or see to her needs.

It seems like when you kicked her out, it was more of the same. She needed to get a life.

[thelostone]

Now when she calls she basically just talks about some specific reason such as telling our daughter goodnight and is not interested in a conversation with me. Thus far I've just been going with that.

[thelostone]

the game thing was 2 years ago

[thelostone]

No I havent invited her back. I thought I wasnt supposed to pursue her, I was asking for advice several times on here about that and other things that i felt unanswered.

[MrBond]

Doesn't matter how long ago it was. You're thinking like a guy. Women hold things in for a very long time. Plus it must have been important enough for you to mention it.

It was an issue and it's come back to haunt you.

[thelostone]

bottom line is I dont know what to do.

[MrBond]

Ask her to come home and see what happens. You never know. When you kicked her out you gave her no other choice but to look at a life without you.

When I kicked my W out, it was because she was cheating on me. In your case it seemed like you did it just because your pride was hurt.

[thelostone]

It will probably just push her away more. I dont think she wants to come home. she said she pretty much made up her mind before i told her not to bother coming home

[thelostone]

that was after she lied to me and went out the night before and was hanging out with her lady coworker the next day. This all after i told her that I love her, want to marry her, and am willing to do everything necessary to make that a reality and ask her if she was. She couldnt give me an answer and said she needed to go to the grandma's house for the weekend to sort it out.

She went alright, for 2 hours and then left the kids there.

[MrBond]

"It will probably just push her away more."

How do you know if you haven't done it? All this stuff you've posted is what you "think".

"she said she pretty much made up her mind before i told her not to bother coming home"

All this was fueled by raw emotion.

How about getting up and doing something? You wanted advice and you got it. Give it a shot. She's already gone so what have you got to lose? At least you know for sure. She has to feel like the door is still open and that you're not going to kick her out again the next time you get upset.