Sorry your evening didn't turn out like you wanted. Sounds like maybe the two of you did talk way too much.
I don't know that I have any good advice here. My h isn't a big ILY guy either. He hasn't said it now in almost two weeks. Not unusual here though. I'd like to hear it more, but you can't make a person say what you want to hear.
Maybe your h feels like he has been patient with you in the past and he just needs you to do the same for him right now. I do know that the more you try to pressure him to do what you want, say what you want to hear, and act like you want him to act the more you are going to push him away. He probably feels like you are trying to control him, hence his comment about coming back when "he is good and ready". Sounds like he's telling you that you are not going to control him.
So, my best advice would be to lay off. Enjoy your times together ML and just spending time together. Let him "show" you his love instead of expecting him to voice it to you. While we all like to hear ILY and, yes, we deserve to hear it, not everyone expresses their love in words.
As far as him taking your suggestions on how to make things better, once again he probably feels like you are trying to control. Work on detaching. If you can let go of the control issue, I think you'd feel a lot of relief. Probably both of you would.
You've come such a long way and have done a great job. You know that one person working on the relationship can make the difference. You can do this.
