Quote: It's a ghost to want to celebrate anniversaries?
karen
Ummmmm.... not really. My quote was taken slightly out of context (I think). If I'm remembering correctly, the quote was in reference to an anniversary related to OW. That's the ghost that was going to haunt every year.
So it may be why I am a bit down. Or it could be that Nov 19 gets closer... the day I got the letter from OW saying my H and her were in love and my opposing a divorce was making their life impossible...
I know guys are a little different when it comes to anniversaries... To him, it's probably "just another day". What are the things you can do to view it the same way? If you can kick this ghost now, it will help keep it from haunting you every year. If you can't cause the date to fade from your mind (the solution I prefer), can you change your view of the day into something like: "Opposing the divorce is making OW's life with H impossible? - I'll show OW impossible... I'll make the 19th a day for me to remind myself that he hasn't left me. I'll DB my heart out and make it an 'epiphany' anniversary. I'm winning."
While it's true that women generally remember dates better than men, I think it's a cop-out reason if men use that as an excuse for not remembering important dates. I'm very bad about dates, so I put them into my organizer. (It's still no guarantee I'll remember, but it helps.)
It's a ghost to want to celebrate anniversaries?
