My real problem is within myself. I still obsess over her and what she is doing and who she is doing it with.
Like an idiot I looked at her facebook and classmates pages and see she has added a number of new "male friends". One in particular lives locally and used to be my Son's Scout leader 10 or so year so. AFAIK he is still married. So what the hell does she want with him? She has nothing to do with BSA and our Son is grown and on his own. WTF?
OK OK! I know I am just torturing myself. I just do not know how to detach from her to the point where I don't care what she does. How the hell do you guys do this? Somebody give me a clue please.
She was my faithful (AFAIK) wife for almost 23 years and now she is flirting with other men like a schoolgirl and it is killing me. And to think that she left me over along distance EA with her HS flame. Guess that must not have panned out for her since he was married and had five kids.
Is there some secret to this detachment stuff?
What is your obsessing keeping you from doing otherwise? Do we keep up the misery because it's comforting in some way, we're used to it? Is there something out there that is more scary to deal with than the pain of what you're doing now? Hey, move over Dr. Phil, I am hot tonight!
