Need help Busting Affair.

[elvencat]

1. Laugh at OW and refer to her as a "slut" who your husband is just "using"
2. Talk extensively about your sex life on face book to stir up fights between your H and OW? I am sure he's telling her he isnt' having sex with you at all
3. Don't argue with OW, just talk as if she's a foolish little tart who's being used and doesn't know it. Right now you are writing as if she's yoru equal and your husband is just enjoying the ego boost of having two women fight over him

This is how I wanted to attack the situation, and as I told my MIL, at this point I have nothing to loose, because my H is still wanting a divorce. My actions of the past few days have not been good, but neither have his. H was beginning to turn around, and then BOOM.... made sure I knew the OW was really involved with him. I think he was afraid. And then went running to her.

Back to your comments, though, on posting on Facebook. I'm not sure how to go about doing this. What I'd love to do is make a comment on H's wall something to the effect of "I'm sorry I attacked you so willfully last night. I understand your friends are important to you, and you have been trying to juggle their needs with mine."

As long as you both fight over him like a couple of cats he's not going to give her up... he's getting way too much of a kick out of it...

I agree...

The problem is she may just share sexual info with YOU about her and your husband if you keep posting about your sexual status.. can you handle that?

At this point, I just want my H away from her, and I'm sure she'll be just as vindictive as any other female can be.

I am just thinking if you post IN GENERAL on facebook rather than to her specifically and post all the warm positive moments in your marraige and everything your H is doing for YOU OW will read that and will get the message that she's being used... not sure... what do you think?

Right now, I think it would be a good idea if good things were happening. Since Saturday, it's been downhill at a steep slide. I think I'll try starting with just mentioning everyday things on H's wall about DD. I haven't tended to post directly on his wall in the past, so he may be suspicious of my motives though.

Right now I think your best response to OW on facebook is to IGNORE her messages to you entirely... its a LOT more demeaning to ignore her...

BUT I would keep posting all marital activity publically there so she can see that your H is making an effort in the marriage... Most women I can't imagine would pursue a man they KNOW is pursuing a marriage and lying to them about it... Most women don't want to be used like that

I like this line of thinking, but OW has been hiding in background now for over a year, so she's willing to do her time and wait it out. I think, though, that now she thinks H is hers, she won't be nice to him if I can get under her skin.

What do you think?