Puppy.. Yeah, I didn't really want to talk directly to OW, but you know I just hated knowing in my gut that he wasn't telling her everything and making it out like we were totally through, even though we weren't. I thought maybe it wouldn't be such a nice place to run and hide if she were mad at H. And if it weren't for the fact that I'm horrible at spelling myself, I'd point her wonderful enunciations out to her. wink She just likes everyone to know she went to MIT, and misses the intellectual atmosphere SO much.

Allen A. - Thanks for the long post, you made a lot of comments I hadn't thought of before. So, here's my response to what I can either infer, or know.

1. I know they've been somewhat physical (kissing & cuddling type stuff), but I really don't know about the sex. I did have my standard physical very recently, so I'm ok there at the moment, but I thought it was funny I haven't had a UTI in years and years and got one just a couple weeks ago. Hmmmmm.

2. It's possible. I know in his past, he has been involved with a similar situation. I figured it was in his past, but, we know how that goes when you never take care of the original issues.

3. Have Talked To:
MIL - will talk to me, but won't get "in the middle", but is 'on my side' as it were
SIL - thought it was b, but may be more like e at this point
My Sis - same as MIL

None of the above would talk to OW right now, and if I push this, she probably won't be invited into the homes either.

Have not Talked To:
Family of OW - I know they support her in this through snooping
My Parents - I know they know we're having issues, but I've never really been able to talk to them about stuff like this. If I go public on facebook, I will probably be talking to them and they will probably be the same type attitude as MIL
Rest of his family - He has a very small fam, the only other one to tell would be his father, and his father is, shall we say, a little unstable at times...(doesn't take needed meds correctly)
My friends - not yet, but will talk to them and they will immediately side with me, but won't be likely to confront H
His friends - he has many online friends, but none local. I don't know how to contact them except through facebook.

More in next post......

Me 32, H 34, DD 3
M 6, T 8
Bomb 03/10
OW Bomb 6/5/10
Separate & NC 6/28/10
My 2nd EA Thread