Thanks DiamondGirl. You've been such a great help. I'm feeling a bit better today; not so emotional. It's still all I think about but now I'm getting mad that his lack of communication has resulted in pain for so many people including two little girls. I have faults but I do know that we had a good life and were working towards things together. In my mind, it's his loss. I have every desire to better myself because of what happened but will do this for me and no other reason.
As for D - I told him on Fri that I would look into it and let him know what I find out. He doesn't want lawyers involved (of course not). He's being quite agreeable right now. So I want to drop it - if he wants a D then I think he should look into it.
As for the bank accounts - he does still have financial obligation to this family; although I do make more than enough money to support myself. I was working part time but am now going full time so that won't be an issue.
He is wanting freedom and to gain confidence and his manhood back. I think the only way I can do that is to allow him to manage his own money without any interference from me. It's only fair. I want him to feel freedom and that I'm capable of giving up control of things....
I'm sorry for your situation and wish I could offer advice. I'm so new to this so thank you, thank you, thank you for your words of wisdom. You've really kept me going.....
