Most things are easier to see in hindsight.. Try not to focus on what won't be and focus instead on you and the chance you've been given to work on you...
20 minutes of peace will turn into 30... 30 to 40... You get the idea...
Re: lawyer...
Next rule to learn (#1 being focus on what you can control which is you) is when in doubt, do nothing as the answer will come to you when it needs to.
Seeing a lawyer is helpful to get the legal lowdown of your rights etc, but it won't help you work on yourself or your interactions with your H. If you feel the need to get a handle on the legal side of things, feel free, but I wouldn't tell your H you've gone.
Start asking yourself "if I do or say x does it bring me closer or farther from my goal?"
When you're not sure wait 24-48 hours before doing or saying it. (this is my biggest downfall...I'm the quick typer from he!! )
If you feel your H will be irresponsible with money, then consider separating the accounts. If you're not sure, do nothing. (see a pattern? )
Take your cues from H with regards to action, don't act when unsure or emotional, take care and be kind to yourself, work on you. All of the above is under your control. Your H and his thoughts or actions aren't.
(((forgingon)))
You'll be fine. Just remember to breathe...
Last edited by DiamondGirl; 06/07/1011:43 PM. Reason: Too much coffee
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