I feel like i need to contact WAW

[knightinneed]

Tech guy I really appreciate the information. Also checked your thread and noticed you seem to be doing well Post D.

The thing that really gets me about the full custody is will this kill any reconciliation attempts. The reconcilation is obviously something deep in my mind or I would not be trying to DB. On dating other women? Well just socialize a bit.

I know deep in my heart that I am probably better for DD1, due to having a home, good income, lots of immediate family near me. But on the other hand I know she is a good mom when she has stability as she did here with me. She didnt have to work for 1year and was able to focus on DD1.

Now that she is working, I think it will be very hard on her unless she hooks up with a guy, which I think she has for support.

What do you think of the effect of filing full D (bluffing or not) vs No reconciliation???


I am extremely confused on doing what is best for ALL of us. As I know even MWD mentions that sometimes a court case or Lawyers can push salvageable marriages straight into divorce.

1 interesting POV i received from a friend was this. Go for FULL custody - WIN - and basically mandate to her or through the court that If you do not get help, stop the violence etc.. Then I will demand supervised visitation.

Like scaring her into getting help, and showing her that life will move on for me and DD1. That she will see what she is missing and come back and get help.

I dont know at this point if thats possible, but she did Walk away once before and I thought she was gone for good. I basically just went dark and she came back and suprised the HELL out of me, because I had wrote her off. We were not married at this time.