I expressed that D is probably inevitable and we should start focussing on becoming friends so we can be civil in front of our son.
She's moved to other bedroom and you've offered the friendship card. If you thought you were in limbo land, you didn't know anything. Now, you will experience limbo.
I will have to agree with Greek's advice. Tell your W that you did not get M in order to have a "friend" (I assume you do have friends, right?). Tell her you deserve a W who wants to have sex and build a future together. Tell her you do not want "this" M and that you will file for D.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
