Exposed finally,,limbo land

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So, in my sitch, with us agreeing to seperate in a couple weeks when DD's are out of school, I'm sure she is going to try to get me to go to bro's, I'm going to stand my ground at that point and give her:

"You have a choice to rebuild a marriage here or to tear a home, a marriage, and a family into pieces that you have to live with for the rest of your life. I have made lots of mistakes and so have you, I am NOT going to ruin children over that... YOU ARE... or you are going to stop this nonsense and work with me and a therapist to rebuild this into something good and healthy for both of us."

Or is there some stuff I can do in the middle, because it seems everytime R talk comes up(seems I should avoid), she is determined to let me know 'I just don't have those feelings', & 'OM has nothing to do with our problems', even 'I should have left a long time ago'?