I feel like i need to contact WAW

[techguy]

Having a relationship with another woman is not part of the divorce busting program. It will complicate your situation and compromise your morals. You want to come out of this knowing that you conducted yourself with honor.

Sure, getting the foster out of the picture might help. But the reality is that your children will cry when they go see mom after the divorce is final. The frequency may vary, but it happens to all divorced parents... it's just part of the territory.